Your Needs vs the Needs of Others – How much can you give?

My partner asked me recently: Do you believe, that in order to be able to take care of other people’s needs, you have to put your own needs aside?

This is a question I started asking myself only a few years ago. Before that, I didn’t even ask. To me, it was clear, that in order to help, to be loving and kind, which is to me a wonderful way to exist on this earth, is to put your own needs aside. Being sick, tired or completely exhausted like clockwork was the two cents my body popped into this internal Q&A.

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The Language of Body & Heart & its Translation

The more I get to know myself and the world, the less I can describe it. Words are not accurate anymore for what I am experiencing. Words seem like a big piece of untreated clay in the midst of beautifully handcrafted pottery.

Poetry already points to that fact. It uses words on the edge of experiences, that we can barely talk about. Only in a poetic way, the words point to a world beyond our logical mind. But then again poetry mostly paints pictures, metaphors, exactly because it tries to speak the unspeakable.

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How (not) to help – Love is the only option

I am thinking a lot about self-care. About what it can mean and how I know exactly the difference between escapism and self-care, between numbing myself and taking care of what my body, mind and emotions need at the moment.

But I also know that this can look different for everyone. It’s hard enough to find out what works for yourself. But even harder, if not more or less impossible, to find the right self-care practices for others. I think it has to be that everyone finds their own way of doing that. They hold the key, like each and every one of us. But standing on the outside, having gone down that path of exploring myself and my needs, I can give suggestions. But nothing more.

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